I know that all I talk about is poo - I'll save you the detailed size-shape-consistency log that I've been keeping for a month. What I really want to talk about is - how do you advocate for your children without becoming a hypochondriac? I don't want to be the person who thinks that every sniffle is cause for alarm, especially since I've more than once taken my kid to the doctor only to discover that he's got a virus and there's nothing to do but wait it out. And pay the bill.
On the other hand, if my child really does have something medically wrong with him, how do I go about being a kind and gracious person as well as persistent, even though I don't know exactly what it is? What about tests - if they confirm my suspicion, they will make N uncomfortable, if not, they still make him uncomfortable and waste money? Will my pediatrician even order them?
With the help of my brother in law to be's medical knowledge, it appears that N may have a cow's milk protein intolerance. I've given up on potty training him and have taken up documenting his every bowel movement in detail as well as reading everything I can find about the condition, which isn't as much as one would think. However, from what I am learning, this disorder/disease/allergy/what have you would explain a lot, such as:
- potty training failure
- ear infections (so many the winter he was one year old and on cow milk)
- runny nose
BUT I'm learning that cow's milk protein can be in everything and I may have to start reading package labels for casein, one of the names of the protein - there are several. If he's highly sensitive, these could be bothering him too. And if that's the case, that puts me into a category I hitherto disliked: The Mom Who Won't Let Her Kid Eat Anything Because of His Crazy Diet. Soy milk instead of cow milk? Fine, I can handle that. Restricting him from not only ice cream and yogurt, but also all kinds of goodies and kid foods that could have "hidden casein"? Ugh...you've got to be kidding.
Please don't take offense if you are one of those moms. I could soon be in your company. I'm just trying to reconcile who I think I am (my kids are perfect!) with who I really am (my kids have health issues that I have to manage and teach them about) I've been doing a lot of that lately.
That's what I've been up to, what's really on my mind. Now I'm going to read a dairy free cookbook, choose a few recipes I think our family can manage, and make a grocery list. N has an appointment with his pediatrician Monday where I'll tell him the whole long story. Hopefully we are on the right track.